He always makes his schedules according to his friends schedules and if I wanna spend any time with him I have to change my schedules. So me and my bf have been dating fur about 5 months now. Works always. Stop yourself from bombarding him with messages. It was over a year ago that I asked my boyfriend if he would take me out on a date, but it never happen. Maybe not right now but sooner than 5 years from now, of that I am certain. Everything about him was so private I have no idea what he does. I help him with college work a lot, and he often expresses to me how he feels so much calmer and relaxed when were together (which is true because his mood just completely changes and hes always so happy). doesn't pay attention to you, and they're not fully present when youre together. But when we got home, there was another fight awaiting us. So i get back from fall break and i zoom him.hes acting different and grumpy and meanhe told me he was moving back to his home state and never coming backI started balling my eyes out I was so confused. I leave him love notes and make him dinner all the time and he doesnt match my effort. I have been with my boyfriend for one and a half years. So we decided to give it a try. It helped me calm down. Hi Beyza! He loves me and I love him. He may be afraid to show sensitivity, make sure to let him know that its okay for him to cry. This man is no good for you, and he will never learn how to grow out of his depression if theres someone always doing everything for him. Another thing that bothers me is he will ask me about my day or some other question, then when I answer, he switches the subject back to himself. Ask yourself what could be causing your boyfriend to pull away from you. I couldnt take the iPad with me if i snuck out but i did tell him to meet me at my gate at midnight. Is it bad that I miss being just friends with him?. His complaint is that no matter what he does is never enough and that I dont contribution anything. Anyways, he has told me before that he plans to make me his girlfriend, we have great conversations, hes very flirty but the problem is he doesnt text me often or try to call or set up a date. Stacey Laura Lloyd is an author with a passion for helping others find happiness and success in their dating lives as well as in their relationships. Rather call it quit now and learn to live without him as soon as possible because you are in a loveless relationship. But he says that I am the person he wants to build a family with and take care of our children someday. I talked to him early in the day (he was out of town). Yet around the holidays, he has completely dropped off the radar and is barely giving me more than a one word text response back. He told me the other day if you dont like the way I am, then leave me. I met his mom for the first time when his parents stopped by, we took his dog paddle boarding. Since Ive moved in with him Ive noticed a big change in things. Were both still full time students living at home. I feel like Im the only one putting any effort for us to spend time together. Oddly enough he always deflects- citing the behavior hes guilty of against me like Im the one doing what he is.? Then he will call and say he thinks he will just wait until Sunday morning to come down, Sunday morning he says maybe that afternoon. I dont know what to do. The one girl has sent him particularly sweet friendly messages on Whatsapp a few times so Im even more jealous than I already was. One thing that has been helping me is just leaving the room to give each other space. I used to think eventually wed work through the kinks and finally stop arguing. There may be more social pressure on men to be the ones who go after women, but hes got feelings too. Its so hard due to his work ,he still trying his best to see me at least thats what he told me. I really love him but he is not doing anything to build connections. he would nvr go out of his way to do anything for me now and it makes me wonder why because what am i lacking? But I decided to tell my bf what makes me happy. Any facetimes we would do were 90% instigated by me. However, I do know something that will help immensely. Then once the virus hit, he completely changed. Were both not yet married with our partners since both of our relationship with our partners is not okay. Its really hard to get him to change his habits. Does Your Life Feel Pointless Without a Relationship? And hes unshowered and playing video games! I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and will be 4 years this August. Im sorry, and I know it can be a really hard thing to do, but you need to leave. He does have some medical issues, but seems to be taking care of most of them, he also says he does suffer from depression and I am wondering if this is what is happening. You dont want to overreact, but its hard when your boyfriend stops making an effort. Still didnt have my phone but my bf wanted to see me. For the past few weeks we only have time in night to chat since hes busy for work but he always talk about sex and video chat with me to see my pussy and whenever I rejected him I dont get a reply or he would say hed go to sleep. We were friends for about 2 years before I gave him a shot and when we were still just friends he would try to spend as much time with me as possible and hangout all the time. He was blowing me off each and every time. And its so confusing because we do get along on every other front like we laugh and have so much fun when we hangout and talk a couple times everyday, but I tell him I like small silly gifts every now and then, and just anything thats like hey this made me think of you but he still doesnt seem to get it. He is struggling to find work as well. Lately he seem a bit distant,he will pick my calls and reply my messages when he is in a meeting,now he complains that it upsets him a bit when i text him when he is in a meeting.. Perhaps you're the one whos losing interest: If you're constantly distracted, always on the phone, and aren't invested in your S.O. He will see what he lost. The crazy thing about all this is that even tho Im the one craving attention and love and effort in the relationship, he actually relies on me a lot. That should be enough. And so on. I visit him at work a couple nights a week and bring him dinner as he works second shift. I know this is an old post, but I want to acknowledge your feelings. Either way I have decided to just sit back and live my life. Life is too short to waste it being miserable and stressed out and fighting over stupid shit. I dont want a father figure, i want a man that i love to show love to me. He never tells me anything until i find out or i discuss my issues. 8 Signs Youre Falling Out of Love With Your Partner, How People Who Commit Adultery Justify Cheating, According to an Expert, What to Do If Someone Is Flirting With Your Partner, What Is Breadcrumbing? I really get frustrated with him often because he does not want to let me go, but yet he can not do what I ask of him. Hes been going through a bit of a struggle with his mental health lately so Ive been trying really hard not to hold how hes been distant over him because I do understand it and I dont want to pry. I dont get it. Your boyfriend is a narcissist. If you almost never see each other, then sitting down to talk about your relationship or his lack of effort would look much different than if you live together. He doesnt come over, we dont go on dates. Help. Hi, I really need help/advice Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9months and we really do love each other but a couple weeks ago we just didnt talk as much or communicate in person & I asked him if he wants this relationship and he said hes lost feelings for me (but he doesnt know and his heads abit lost) and it doesnt feel like were together anymore because the conversation is dead. I do still love him, and have a lot of nice moments with him, and great memories. Dont EXPECT him to show up for it, but try to share it with him a little bit. I have been with my bf for 5 years. Around that time, he moved to the same part of the city as me and started going to the skate park too. Its hard to deal with, but Im trying to just tolerate it until the coronavirus is over, in hopes that things will go back to normal. So guess what? Im a very physical touch/ Quality time person. He has told me over and over that I need to stop. Since Christmas hes stopped seeing as much, no nice texts, less phone calls he says its not me & its because hes busy with work but even now on a Friday night hes at his place & im at mine. You will end up hating yourself. If youre last on your boyfriends list of priorities, then you need to stop wondering what to do when he makes no effort in your relationship. A lot of times my boyfriend has realised he did it on purpose to hurt and he regrets his words right after. I would get so frustrated with him because I really was not asking for much, just a phone call to check on your girlfriend surely is not asking for much. Hes shows effort but due to my insecurities I overthink when I stop seeing the efforts and assume the worst. I am learning. I tried talking to him about it and he was very dismissive with just an okay, I have been dating my boyfriend for over 3years now but he hasnt prioritized me..his family always comes first, whereas i do the most work, im there for him emotionally, physically financially sometimesbut I always come last on his list he is a good guy and he respects me and all but im jst tired cos he doesnt spend on me.Then i met another guy who will give me his eyeballs as soon as i ask for them but he is very disrespectful and selfish wen it comes to my feelings.. he is always the right one.. if I complain of being ignored till his convenience he jst ignores me some more and comes back to say Im sorry babe i love you and thats it..I really dont know what to do.. please help me. Heres my concern-We live 70kms apart amd stick to phone calls and texts and online communication. Its just so sad because we have already talked about these no showing of efforts issue and up until this day it is still the same. If you havent recognized it yet, you are in an abusive relationship. So he does nothing. I am alone in this relationship.? One month later. I love my boyfriend so much, weve been together for a year now. But hes continued to ignore my texts/ doesnt make effort to see me. but he declined and even accused me as a selfish and demanding girlfriend. I know we also havent been talking quite as much because were both busy with work. I used to be patient but recently Ive been having anger issues and he knows how to handle my mood accordingly. Im so sorry this happened to you. Were in our late 20s. Or stay here and break up. You cant make him love you, or force him to make an effort in your relationship. I have been working 70 hour weeks and I am doing an online MBA. After he left me, my life became miserable.. Doing this you will find out more about yourself. It can certainly take a negative toll on your relationship (and your self-esteem) if you constantly have to repeat yourself, you cant help but feel your S.O. He chatted me the day of valentines day 2019. My boyfriend recently broke up with me. We would always say I like you instead of I love you. We spent four weekends together at his place and virtually every day together on a mutual project for a month. About me. Its sad. Theres no dignity or respect in how youre being treated. I have 2 dogs who give me so much love and fulfillment. Hi My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now and weve lived together for 3.5 of those years. He doesnt ask about my life and hes still working with his ex wife in a business relationship. With him, he tried very hard to get the first couple dates with me and he didnt stop. And even now he knows that there are small things he has done to make me feel loved and special (eg my name on his ig bio without me asking) and Ive made it so so clear that these small things make so so happy, but I just noticed that he removed my name from his bio yesterday and it breaks my heart because thats the one thing he has done that reminded me he loves me.. its so stupid because its such a small thing but at this point I have been so starved of love that I dont have anything else. That will drive you crazy too. It feels awful when you feel like you care about him more than he does about you. I feel like I could spend my life with him if it were not for one issue that has always popped up. I start to think that maybe he is cheap and he doesnt want to spend money having a meal in a nice restaurant because we didnt go out for a proper dinning experience. We spent four weekends together at his place and virtually every day together on a mutual project for a now. 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